I remembered today that I had a blog I wrote things in almost three years ago. Luckily, I saved the log-in info with Chrome, so I don’t have to reset the password.
Three years. I can’t believe it’s been that long since I was a college sophomore sitting in my dorm room, anxiously typing out words in an attempt to assuage how lost and how hopeless I felt.
As I sit here in my hotel room, in a state where it’s been humid basically every single day (Virginia), I can’t help chuckling at how naive I was.
I’ve never been a person who’s been able to “live in the moment”. My mind’s always been the type to enjoy the gentle rolling calmness of the waves of nostalgia, ignorant of the fact that the shore from where those memories started has long since faded out of sight, into the past. When I left middle school, all I could complain about on Facebook was how I took middle school for granted. When I finally left New York and went to Boston for college, all I could think about was how I had taken my high school years for granted, and how college could never replicate the experiences I had. My first few nights of freshman year orientation week were spent wondering where my life was going, with me wondering if I had a sense of direction.
Freshman year went by in the blink of an eye. So did sophomore year, junior year, and even senior year. What’s weird is that the minutes and days felt like weeks and months, while the months felt fleeting and temporary. I did the same thing every day — wake up, go to class, eat, play League, sleep. Though the hours I spent in class felt as slow as molasses, the transition from day to night went by in the blink of an eye. Junior year and senior year were my favorite years — I wasn’t a perfect roommate or friend, nor was I stress free (who can be, when you “have to find an internship” or “have to find a job“?) — not because of how “perfect” they were, but because of the fact that I knew I had support even in the midst of my problems, and because I was finally, after two years, settling down into living in Boston and getting used to college. Everything felt okay — things weren’t great, but they weren’t bad. I felt stable. Feeling okay was good enough.
My anxiety grew as graduation approached this past May. I knew my days were counting down, even though I wasn’t ready to leave yet. As I write this, I realize that I’ve probably never been ready to leave. Even as I physically leave a city that I had grown used to behind, my mind has left a heavy anchor in the memories of the past, however rose-colored and cloudy they may be. There has not been one day where I don’t bring up college or Boston at least mentally, and that’s because in my mind, I haven’t really left. It’s not that I’m afraid to move on. It’s just that once again, I’m not ready to go. I remember thinking that I’d be happy and fulfilled as soon as I got a job…given the fact that I’m writing this, it’s clear that I was just ignorant and naive of not only the world around me, but also myself as a person.
Of course, it’s only been a month. I know that I felt this way when I first went to high school, and when I first went to Boston for college. And just like the feeling eventually passed, I hope that it passes this time as well.